March 13 2017

You Owe You

This video is 7 mins.  I suggest you watch every second.

Dr. Eric Thomas is one of my favorite motivational speakers. His energy seemed to be genuinely fueled by his desire to encourage others to stop making excuses and fight for their future.  In addition to his words, he has the back story to make them even more powerful.

I read this man’s book and oh is it a life changing read.

After running away from an abusive household and choosing to live on the streets rather than go down a path he knew was destined to lead to a dead-end, Eric Thomas went against the grain and challenged the bullish streets of Detroit to a fight that only one of them would survive. WATCH THE WHOLE 7 MINS. It will change your life!

March 13 2017

You Are Not Machines!

So,  you want to live in a fantasy world? Okay. Some of the best motivational speeches from movies.

The Charlie Chapman speech is particularly engaging as it was produced decades ago and is still relevant today. I kid about people being in a fantasy world. The arts are a reflection of the times and reading and watching fictional stories are very effective ways to explain real life events.  Enjoy!

March 11 2017

Yes Misery Loves Company, But Success Does Too


So, I’m going through my usual morning ritual of checking my social media feeds. This has become an obsessive priority for me ever since I decided to take a serious approach to doing something with my life.  As I’m going through my Twitter notifications I notice a few people who immediately catch my eye, so I read their bio’s real quick.

If it sounds good to me and fits my niche I usually hit the follow button. I saw some things I liked and left clicked a few times.  Of course there was that one Tweeter in particular who sparked my undivided attention. when I saw a ‘verified” check and “as seen on TV” I got the, “let’s check this out” response from my inner voice.

While receiving follows from verified professionals in the ‘biz’ is nothing new to me, I’ve recently come to the realization that; one must listen to successful people if one wants to be successful.  So of course, I continue.

Courageous is Contagious

I take a quick lap around her page and see some nice creativity, impressive credentials, but the thing that snapped a bulb in my head was a quote.  If you follow me on social media, you know that I love quotes.  The quote that caught my eye has been stamped above these paragraphs.  “Wanted Encouragers,” it begins.  “We have a surplus of critics already, thanks.”  Then the cherry on top, “Signed, World”.  I love it.

During the past year I have been dipping my toes into the world of real estate as a sales agent.  As part of my training I was surrounded and infused with motivational tools.  Grant Cardone videos, Eric Thomas posters, Tony Robbins books.  Some of these guys I’ve heard of before, but never really went further than reading a quote or two. I should have went further.

I started reading books by these guys and people like them.  I got the audio books to listen to on the road, so I could immerse myself in my new-found obsession.  By the time a few months had passed, I found myself stepping out from the shadows on social media, showing my face to the world and my creative thoughts along with it.  Then, I stopped and self analyzed as I often do.

I had an overpowering need to figure out why motivation was so attractive to me.  I mean, in all honesty when I first thought about this I said to myself, “I’ve been pretty selfish most of my life”. However, when I really broke it all down, I realized I was looking at things from one angle exclusively.

Instead of thinking of myself as selfish, I came to the conclusion that I was doing what many of my unsung mentors did to become successful;  I was making sure I’m strong enough to do what it is I need to do to reach my goals.  I have to provide myself with all the necessary tools.

Is Your Happiness Real?

Sure, I like being that guy people come to for help.  I like teaching people new things.   I like learning things from other people, but on many occasions the people we meet and befriend are people who knowingly or unknowingly work to deter us from reaching your goals or trick us into thinking we don’t have any.  Even worse, being around these people long enough can cause you to absorb some of their toxic traits.  It takes awhile, but if you look hard enough you will start to find yourself.

“Maybe it’s my name,” I thought.  The name ‘Alem’ translates into ‘World Leader’. Maybe I’m destined to help people.  Or maybe not.  Maybe knowing the translation of my name has caused me to believe that I am a leader. Or, maybe I’ve just listened to too many motivational speeches. There’s only one way to find out right?  Either way the pendulum swings and drops, I’ll still enjoy helping others anyway I can.

They say misery loves company, and I agree, but on the other side of that coin is success. Success loves company too.  Show me any successful person and I will tell you if they are truly happy or not based on what they do with their money.

If the successful person gets joy from helping people and ensuring the happiness of others, they are truly happy. This still works if it’s just one person they care about in the world. They are still thinking about someone else’s happiness.  Be careful here. When you lend a helping hand a bunch of people start looking to borrow. Keep an eye out for those looking to take advantage of you and get rid of them immediately.

If the successful person is selfish and only cares about themselves they may seem happy to the naked eye, but gaze upon them when they’re all alone.  It is here where the truth is revealed; They are never and will never be truly happy.  That’s not how we are coded.

Big shout out to Marsha Wright for inspiring this blog post 

March 8 2017

Even When You ‘Lose’ You Win

Have you ever heard the expression, “I never lose, either I win or I learn”? This is one of the greatest quotes I’ve ever heard in my life, because it can turn any type of failure into a victory.

Let’s take Michael Jordan for instance.  The greatest basketball player of all time (my opinion) lost his first NBA Eastern Conference Finals to The Detroit Pistons. What happened the next year?  Check out this excerpt;

“The Game 7 loss resulted in a stronger Bulls team the following season. With greater concentration on teamwork, they posted the best record in the East at 61-21 and Jordan regained the MVP award after years of being called a selfish player. Proving their growth, Chicago swept Detroit.”-Wikipedia

So what happened here? The same thing that happened when Michael Jordan’s high school coach cut him from the team. He used his anger to fuel him. I believe that anger is the best motivation. Any motivating factor you can think of ultimately goes back to anger.

If a girl you love dumps you for being a lazy, selfish, bum its’ the love that lights the fire, but it’s the anger that fuels it, forcing you to look at yourself and make a change.  If you’re standing at a bus stop one year freezing your butt off, it’s the anger of being out in the cold another year that pushes to get a car.  That one actually happened to me.  I couldn’t take it anymore.  The next year I got my license and my first car.

The bulls banded together and as a team they used their anger from the previous year’s loss to propel them back into the Eastern Conference Finals, where they again faced the Pistons.  As stated above they didn’t just beat them, Detroit, the defending NBA Champions, didn’t win one single game.

“the Bulls’ 3 years of growing pains gave them the drive that inspired the greatness necessary to defeat the Pistons.”

This is just one of the many possibilities when you look at a ‘loss’ from a different angle.  I keep putting ‘loss’ in quotes because, as stated above, one should believe that they “never lose, either you win or you learn”.

March 8 2017

You Want Problems

If you are trying to successfully sell anything in this world, you want problems.  I repeat: YOU WANT PROBLEMS.  To be clear, when I’m talk about selling you have to think outside the box for a second.

We are always selling something.  When you’re young you try to sell your parents on a later curfew.  When you’re a politician you try to sell your agenda to the voters.  Right now I’m in the beginning stages of selling you on the idea that you need problems.  You can change the name, but when you chop it down to the basics, we are all in the sales business. The difference is the products.

So, what about the problems?  Why would someone want problems if they are trying to achieve a certain goal?  Before I can answer those questions you must first understand that there are 2 types of problems.  A ‘bad’ problem and a ‘good’ problem.  For example, let’s say I work at a shoe store and my pay is supplemented with commission.  For every $1000 in products I sell I get an extra $20.  In this scenario, being in the store and having only a few customers would be a ‘bad’ problem, because that would make it harder for me to hit my goal of $1000.  On the other hand lets say business is booming and I have way more customers than I can handle. Although it would be nerve-racking and a bit stressful, I would be a fool to see this as anything other than a ‘good’ problem. More customers equals more product sold or at least more chances to sell products, and more products sold equals me getting closer or maybe even surpassing the $1000 goal.  Sure it may be difficult for you to properly service every single one of your customers at this point, but that’s part of being successful; rolling with the punches.  This is only part of the beauty of having problems.

Problems provide us with the opportunity and motivation to accomplish great things.  All of the greatest inventions of our time have been created simply to solve a problem.  The wheel, light bulb, telephone, airplane, etc. were all created to solve different problems.  Look, even the example of a ‘bad’ problem I illustrated above could be turned into a ‘good’ one if you had the motivation to do so.  Check it out.

You have a store, employees, shoe contracts with distributors and enough cash flow to keep everything running smoothly for the time being.  Your only problem is getting more customers in the store.  Once you figure out how to do that, you have the means to make profits.  At this point you are one idea away from success.  There you have it.  A quick explanation of how problems can help you.  Now, the next time you are faced with a problem please take a second to stop and think about it.  It could be a great opportunity in disguise.